It had never occurred to me that what I experienced, growing up, was worth counting as trauma. It hadn’t occurred to me when grown men salivated over my twelve-year old, overgrown, ripe body, and made no pains to conceal it.
When I found out that I was not the only victim of intimate partner violence, I realised that my silence was enabling his violence. I decided to start speaking out about it, and I want to share some common responses to highlight why speaking out can be re-traumatising and difficult to a survivor.
After being body-shamed to such an extent I grew so dejected and downcast, that I avoided interactions with my classmates, opting to spend my recess in the library after grabbing a quick bite. However, little did I imagine that body-shaming would continue to dog me even in adult life.
I earned my PhD in fame, founded the CMCS and now take pride in helping other women find a voice in the post-Weinstein era and leave behind their trauma.
It is imperative that the state’s ID processes take into account our complex lived realities, and try to make things simpler for us, but the new Transgender Rights Bill only makes it further difficult.
"I was taunted for hanging out with boys and everyone made me feel miserable about the way I was", says Josh Ningthoujam.
"Being gay, the onus unfortunately falls on oneself entirely – to struggle and rise above social stigma and nonacceptance to find oneself", says Iohborlang Keven Hanson.
What is radical about the #MeToo movement is that the long overdue objectivity is now being given to the lived experiences of women, specifically of sexual violence.
The reality of the lives of Trans men in Manipur is indeed complex. "Many of us continue to live extremely hard lives and some even worse despite the presence of a community", says Laishram Sopin.
My stylist told me later how my boss would force him to get short clothes for me. He threatened him that he will be chucked out of his job if he did not get revealing clothes for me.