If you live in urban India and manage to avoid the media saturation of an upcoming Bollywood movie, you probably live under a rock. The said rock is my roof. I went to watch Baar Baar Dekho, oblivious to the fact that it has a reprise of the 90s hit number ‘Kala Chashma‘. I was hoping for some semblance of sanity when I discovered that the director is Nitya Mehra, whose bio says she had been the assistant director of a movie like ‘Life of Pi.’
To be sure, this is no gritty drama. It has its share of cheesy comedy and cheesier romance at the outset, helped along by typical romantic numbers. And come on! Dharma Productions and fluff go together like Bheegi saree me hot nari under barsaat ka pani! Between the pretty faces and the beaches and bikinis, you’re thrown the mandatory band, baaja and shaadi (obviously)! The leads characters are Diya and Jai played by Katrina Kaif and Siddhartha Malhotra respectively, so there’s plenty of gorgeousness to gawk at.
It is a movie about inter-personal relationships, which portrays the angst of the woman who alone must do the emotional and caregiving labour to hold her family together, while her husband is busy chasing his career. His singular contribution to family building seems to be the donation of his sperm. No surprises there!
While she moves countries and continents so he may pursue his dream career, he couldn’t be bothered to make the time to be at the opening of her art exhibition – so real, so predictable! I only wish they hadn’t chosen such stereotypical professions for the two protagonists – he’s a mathematician and she’s a painter. Baar Baar Dekho gets added to the list of ever-so annoying Bollywood movies, taking pride in duplicating stereotypes and worsening the case for a gender-just world.
There are jarring bits. The part that made me hugely uncomfortable was the sequence when a person with an apparent mental disability is mocked at and used as a prop for producing some staged laughs: so unfunny! And when the female protagonist Diya asks her boyfriend/ husband Jai why he loves her, his answers made me cringe each time. Stuff along the lines of “You’re my wife” or “You’re the mother of my children”. At this point, I reminded myself: this is Bollywood and they can deliver only so much with one movie, let’s not get ahead of ourselves in the hopes department, please!
It does dawn upon Jai that relationships have to be built with loving attention and care and that nurturing one’s loved ones leads to a more fulfilling existence. When Jai picks up his daughter and swirls her around while she looks adoringly at him, in a scene crafted to pull at your heartstrings, it manages to do just that.
The movie has some creditable performances, from the actors playing the not-so-main roles, like Sarika, who plays Jai’s mom and the guy who plays the art gallery owner, Ram Kapoor as Diya’s dad tends to ham just the tad bit. Rajit Kapoor as the pandit with the mysterious link to Jai’s future seems wasted.
The biggest surprise of the movie – Katrina Kaif has finally learnt to emote in front of the camera, to an extent. Siddharth Malhotra manages to hold his own, though at times the lack of depth in his performance shows.
With all the modern tech available and presumably a big budget, the make-up for aging is surprisingly tacky. The portrayal of the future is meh; it shows absolutely no imagination at all. A little effort in that department would have gone a long way in making this a memorable movie.
Does the movie pass the Bechdel Test? Probably not. Yet, even though it’s far from perfect I sent up two cheers for this movie’s attempts at looking at a world centred on loving, fulfilling relationships, where jobs and careers including men’s take a backseat and nurturance is given primacy.
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