This is an interview of Merlin Heintzman Hope, a young father and an upcoming artist on paternity, masculinity, fatherhood and who performs and makes art with his son, Gael.
Coming from a conservative Muslim family where your male cousins won’t even look at you if you are not wearing a dupatta, I have always felt that my body was constantly scrutinised and kept under the male gaze.
Fasting during Ramadan is meant to teach the importance of patience to Muslims, yet it also reflects the constant shaming imposed on women within the household.
भारत में ऐसी कोई सर्वे रिपोर्ट बेहद सीमित मात्रा में उपलब्ध है, जिससे यह पता चलता है कि कितने युवक-युवतियों के शादी से पहले संबंध रहे है| पर ये सीमित आंकडें कोई पुख्ता तस्वीर सामने लाने के लिए काफी नहीं है|
In the cases where the child sexual abuse is disclosed by the survivor, it becomes a threat to the 'honour and dignity' that has been earned by the family for generations.
Abusive parents ensure that the submissive role of a child continues even after they have grown into adults, especially of their daughters, who are already made vulnerable by the patriarchy.
A man at a higher position, who has rejected the idea of marriage is looked at like a saint whereas an unmarried woman with the same status would always be the topic of gossip.
We edify the idea of home so much that we forget that it can easily become the breeding ground of rights violations.
Choice in terms of marriage is reflective of the highly intolerant views that we as a society hold towards people who belong to the 'other' communities which leads to social exclusion.
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