Victim implies the presence of external perpetrators, an ineffective system, takes longer to heal and exposes the culpability of the culture.
This experience reflects a deep-seated misogyny in society, with clear gendered power relations at play within the mental health sector.
In-laws envisage the hapless bahu to behave like a robot, silently obey orders of elders, keep their mouths shut and give birth to sons.
There is a dominating notion that there could be a perfect body where this perfection in question is quantifiable and definable.
I had the perception of knowledge as a neutral, accessible platform, and a year in quizzing shattered that assumption.
I remember looking into her eyes and realizing that my mother had been fighting far too many battles on her own.
Having my head shaven was an amazingly liberating feeling. It made me experience a high of being totally free in that moment.
I was really conscious of the ascribed North-East identity only when I left Shillong and arrived in Delhi.
Now the mother of an adult child, I have to learn new rules and reappraise my mothering as an Indian mother in a Western, White culture.
Grief, at least in my life, has not followed any logical path. The harder I try to put it away completely, the more savagely it returns.