It is important to listen to that little voice in your head that keeps giving you warning signals to get out of a emotionally abusive relationship.
Self blame is a major obstacle when recovering from sexual abuse. Overcoming self blame is difficult and takes a lot of strength. The transition from victim to survivor is possible only if self blame can be overcome.
I changed my narrative from victim to survivor. I refused to accept that I was deformed because of my past, inclusive of my sexual abuse.
Gaslighting is a phenomena which effects us deeply, we often fail to realise how our self-perception grows from certain childhood incidents.
Putting the blame of sexual abuse on its survivors is the product of a rape culture where morality is hinged on the actions of a woman.
Took me years to peel off your words from my skin. Took me years to rub the roses off my eyes and see the red flags as they were. Took me years to learn oral sex isn't terrible, rape is. And that is what it was.
What happens when the person that you trust & care for, rapes you? Rape, consent – neither can be a grey. They are, nonetheless, made to be.
Staring can make people extremely uncomfortable. It's incredibly violating and often leads to the awkward dupatta adjustment. It's also difficult to report because it can never be proven. But staring, like street harassment, is also a form of sexual harassment.
I lived through being known as the “sexual harassment victim”. I wonder if my harasser got this much recognition. But, who cares? He got away.
Holi has become a premier festival for socially sanctioned sexual harassment. It gives a free pass in the name of celebration to harass.