Given the recent ban on pornography in India and talks of women watching porn being an indignity, we thought of having a discussion on #WomenWhoWatchPorn on Twitter. To say the least, we found it highly interesting. We spoke of women with a porn collection, what kind of porn women watch and even how they watched their first porn. It was a refreshing discussion.
http://t.co/pKKy1EAwOx Have you guys read this? Let’s talk about #WomenWhoWatchPorn. @genderlogindia @fempositive @JhagdaluAurat
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
We asked, and a lot of women answered
.@FeminismInIndia Hate hetero-porn, usually watch girl on girl, erotica, etc. Like to read than watch?
— Japleen Pasricha (@japna_p) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia It took me 25 years to realise that it was okay for me to watch porn. Then, I realised I hated how sex was shown. — R (@mizarcle) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia Boo to this lawyer who obviously thinks women are devoid of sexual instincts @genderlogindia @fempositive @JhagdaluAurat
— Indian Red (@sanyuktaaah) August 5, 2015
And then the discussion turned inquisitive
@FeminismInIndia Best thing about liking more ‘female friendly’ sites is that most flew completely under the ban radar 🙂 #WomenWhoWatchPorn — Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia Started seeking feminist porn. Not much around but I am hoping it is getting better.
— R (@mizarcle) August 5, 2015
@japna_p @FeminismInIndia I think gay porn is the only real porn out there. — Shreyasi Bose (@Bose_atron) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia Focus on women which is real rather than unnatural.
— R (@mizarcle) August 5, 2015
We were happy when men joined in
And the inquisition continued. We discussed why men liked women on women porn and why women watch man on man porn. We just found out that sexual preferences are varied and sometimes you don’t need a reason.
@japna_p @FeminismInIndia i wonder why women prefer watching woman on woman porn, while men hate man on man porn ! — Aditya (@Jhaditya4u) August 5, 2015
@Jhaditya4u @japna_p @FeminismInIndia I would like to know that too.. I am bisexual so I like women on women. Why do other women?
— Shreyasi Bose (@Bose_atron) August 5, 2015
@Bose_atron @Jhaditya4u I find man on woman so disgusting, that I prefer women. @FeminismInIndia — Japleen Pasricha (@japna_p) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia @genderlogindia #WomenWhoWatchPorn are women in control f their lives&actions.That’s insulting ‘#indianculture‘, they’d say
— Arun Chembilath (@ichembilath) August 5, 2015
@Jhaditya4u @japna_p @FeminismInIndia What I never figured is why so many women like to watch man on man porn. — Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia @mizarcle You might like http://t.co/6DyOoMgVoG, or @ShineLouise‘s films with @PinkWhite and http://t.co/9xY3MyXzrG 🙂
— Crash Pad Series (@CrashPadSeries) August 5, 2015
We tried talking about masturbation too
A lot of women still don’t talk about masturbation or treat it like sin. Well, it’s not. Wake up and smell the feminist porn.
We should also talk about the general perception that women don’t masturbate. #WomenWhoWatchPorn and #WomenWhoMasturbate
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
Oh My God, yes we must! https://t.co/7ejzoDh9v0
— R (@mizarcle) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia @genderlogindia why #WomenWhoWatchPorn is insult to women dignity? Women have thier own choice n freedom. & sexual liberty
— zahnaseeb (@BaeBaePink) August 5, 2015
Check out Loree, who is a queer femmegimp porn star academic doing a PhD at York University. http://t.co/ROFWuswGMU #sexdis @FeminismInIndia
— Sexuality&Disability (@dis_sexuality) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia personally I know a lot of women who don’t masturbate at all. I think it has something to do with culture and perceptions
— Shreyasi Bose (@Bose_atron) August 5, 2015
Then we asked how women watched their first porn
Tell us about how you watched your first porn. #WomenWhoWatchPorn
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia My female friends never discuss it. Most, sexually active women included, just don’t think it’s something ‘women do’.
— Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
@NegaNeeigha there are also women who do not know that it can be done to them. Women take their role in bed as contributory.
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
@FeminismInIndia My dad wasn’t very careful with his search history? 😀 Of course I had no idea why naked bodies were doing those things.
— Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
From where the discussion veered to female orgasms. We talked about how most women go through their lives not ever experiencing an orgasm and the need for education about clitoral and penetrative orgasms.
@FeminismInIndia True. We need to start talking about women and orgasms too.
— Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
@Bose_atron @FeminismInIndia Tell women what to do down there first. Plus, the clitoral vs. penetrative distinction.
— Neha Mathews (@NegaNeeigha) August 5, 2015
@NegaNeeigha @FeminismInIndia @FeminismInIndia True. orgasms is big taboo n i dont think half to indian women ever get orgasm!
— zahnaseeb (@BaeBaePink) August 5, 2015
@NegaNeeigha @FeminismInIndia @Bose_atron there is a belief among some sections that sex is a man’s affair& women are just to accompany them
— Arun Chembilath (@ichembilath) August 5, 2015
@ichembilath @NegaNeeigha @Bose_atron True. Even our movies and serials depict the same. The woman never seducing the man #WomenWhoWatchPorn
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
Porn needn’t be smutty: Feminist erotica director Erica Lust http://t.co/9BBWuR88Bc
— Shweta Ghosh (@ShwetaGhosh88) August 5, 2015
All in all, our discussion spanned various topics and we also found some interesting sites online. Check out the entire storified discussion. Maybe you’ll like what you find.
Great discussion people. I think this should be discussed more and more often too. Talk about #WomenWhoWatchPorn and #FemaleOrgasms
— Feminism in India (@FeminismInIndia) August 5, 2015
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