With these negotiations, I learn about not only the structural problem of patriarchy kept in place through mansplaining, but also about my conditioning that has always told me to listen to men but never respond, to be interrupted but dare not interrupt.
And as a queer couple, we were engulfed by the fear of being met with displeasure or perhaps, even violence, if we were to be seen indulging in any form of physical affection.
It is not always possible to make sustainable choices while travelling, but one can however reduce their ecological footprint by simply being more thoughtful.
Girls trips are life events that have a high return on emotional, social, and monetary investment and almost always live up to the hype.
Travel is a luxury that I cannot handle easily. I was born with a disability called Talipes, or more commonly called as Club Foot.
Travel, while liberating and empowering for women, comes with its own set of restrictions and tensions. Maybe that’s why we can’t envision Dil Chahta Hai with female characters, because we know that the experience won’t be the same for a group of women travelling together.
Yes, we as free thinking, strong, feminist women desire that women travelling solo especially for a holiday not be a big thing, but the realities in our country are different.
Thinlas Chorol is a trekking guide, social entrepreneur and the founder of Ladakhi Women’s Travel Company (LWTC), a company both owned and operated by women.
The notion of solitude is necessarily gendered. There is nothing more threatening to the patriarchy than a woman alone.
My decision to travel literally saved my life and helped me escape the shackles of Brahmanical patriarchy. I will to solo travel until I die.
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